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From Omar's Desk: Connect

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Most people want meaningful relationships. Few know how to build them.

Here are 7 frameworks that helped me move past small talk—and build real connection:

1/ The 15% Rule

Growth happens just outside your comfort zone.

→ Share just 15% more than usual. Not enough to feel unsafe—but enough to invite real connection.

2/ The Ladder of Inference

We react to stories, not facts.

→ When you feel triggered, rewind. Start from what actually happened—before interpreting intent.

3/ Net Worth vs. Net Contribution

Strong relationships aren’t about keeping score.

→ Ask: Am I adding value, or just expecting it?

4/ The Exchange Structure

Openness invites openness.

→ Match their vulnerability. Don’t overshare, but meet them where they are.

5/ The Three Levels of Connection

Small talk keeps us stuck.

→ Move from facts → opinions → feelings. That’s where trust lives.

6/ The Power of Feedback

You can’t grow what you can’t see.

→ Ask: “What’s one thing I could do to make our relationship stronger?”

7/ The Trust Triangle

Trust = Sincerity + Reliability + Competence

→ Be real. Follow through. Show you’re capable. That’s the foundation.

These insights come from the book Connect by David Bradford & Carole Robin—shared via Omar’s Desk.

What’s something you wish you’d learned earlier about connection?👇

PS: We’re wired for connection. It’s not just a want—it’s a need.

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